Sona:
It’s our fourth wedding anniversary, but we’ve been together 15 years, and neither of us are willing to trade that number in so easily. Still, four years ago today, we made a commitment to each other in front of our friends and family. One year after that, almost exactly, our civil union was recognized as a marriage. Two years later, we had Finn. Now, tomorrow, we close on our first home.
I’d say we’re doing pretty good, kid.
The thing is, marriage ain’t easy. We’ve been together a very long time–nearly half of my life–and those years have shown us that all relationships are decisions. You can leave; you can stay. You wake up each day, and you have to decide.
Sometimes, I think we’ve both wondered, however briefly, what the right decision would be. Sometimes, we’ve allowed our relationship to get pulled down by the weight of so many questions: Are we right for each other? Did we find one another when we were too young? Are we supposed to make each other this crazy? Why? How? Is this normal? What if? What then?
But when the fog of uncertainly burns off–and it always does–I am left with one certitude: I’d choose you. I’d choose you every single time.
I love you, always.
Danielle
(And now for some photos from our wedding day, which we both think was lovely, but which was paid for with money that we both agree should have been spent on an obscene travel adventure. Take note, singletons.)
